Pastor's 'If I have gay children' blog stirs US debate

Photograph on Pastor John Pavlovitz's Facebook page October 23, 2014

A blog written by a North Carolina pastor has stirred a national debate in the United Sates on parents who have gay children.

More than 1.5 million people have read the website of Pastor John Pavlovitz who wrote the blog titled "If I Have Gay Children" where he outlined his thoughts on the possibility of having gay children.

The father of two had led his congregation at North Wake House Church, North Carolina for 18 years.

Pavlovitz started the blog on September 17 with the confession that he often thinks about what he will do if he will have gay children.

He then proceeded with four promises to his children- Noah and Selah- if they come out.

In the first promise, he said that people will know if he has gay children, adding that if his children will be out, they will be out as one family.

He said childhood is difficult enough and he doesn't want his children to go through the discomfort that most gay kids usually experience.

In his second promise, he clarified that his prayers will not be to "change or fix them" but for God to protect his children.

He understands the discrimination that gay people go through and he prays that his children be shielded from people's curses and persecutions.

The pastor will also pray that his children pursue God despite negative experiences from people.

Pavlovitz's third promise is to love his children "with an extravagant, open-hearted, unapologetic, lavish, embarrassing-them-in-the-school cafeteria, kind of love."

The blog ends by explaining that he will accept them as they are because "if my kids are going to be gay, well they pretty much already are."

He said, "God has already created them and wired them, and placed the seed of who they are within them." He quotes Psalm 139, which says that God stitched them together in their mother's womb.

The pastor knows that people may be offended by his topic, especially the religious ones. But he hopes parents consider what he has written.

The post reaped over 2,500 conflicting views from readers. One reader wrote: "This is beautiful! I was smiling as I read the entire post." However, another said: "This is horrible coming from a pastor."

"Over the last 12 years since my son came out, I've come to understand just how vitally important each of these points is to the well-being of our LGBTQ children," wrote Dawn Holt on September 29. "And I know how horrible it is when parents and faith leaders are rejecting."

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